成功學(xué)大師背后不為人知的秘密
Polina Marinova
2018-03-26
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常看TED演講的人可能對托尼·羅賓斯這個名字并不陌生，他是美國知名的成功學(xué)演講師、暢銷作家，CEO智囊，在美國的影響力非常廣泛。 本文原打算寫的是企業(yè)家能從Netflix攝制關(guān)于羅賓斯的紀(jì)錄片中學(xué)到些什么（比如關(guān)于“保持饑餓”、“問有深度的問題”、“打造共識”、“保持真實(shí)”之類的話題）。但是看到“真實(shí)”的部分，我開始有點(diǎn)糾結(jié)了。 這部紀(jì)錄片的名字叫《托尼·羅賓斯：我不是你的成功學(xué)大師》。這個名字有點(diǎn)諷刺，因?yàn)閽伻コ晒W(xué)大師的頭銜，我們其實(shí)對生活中真實(shí)的羅賓斯一無所知。 整部片子時長兩小時。故事一開始，是羅賓斯在幫助“與命運(yùn)約會”學(xué)習(xí)班（有2500人參加）的一個學(xué)員勸解他的自殺傾向。然后，片子模糊地勾勒了羅賓斯本人的成長經(jīng)歷，他也曾有一段不堪回首的過去。 “我是個來自加州阿祖瑟市的孩子，我對任何事情都不確定，唯一確定的是，我的成長和家庭環(huán)境不可能讓我經(jīng)歷我后來經(jīng)歷的那些事，所以我塑造了這個叫‘托尼·羅賓斯’的家伙。我塑造了他，我創(chuàng)造了他，他就是我，但這個混蛋是我創(chuàng)造的。”羅賓斯敘述道。 接下來是一連串的蒙太奇手法，很多名人（如艾倫·狄珍妮、拉里·金、皮爾斯·摩根等）接連出鏡，稱贊羅賓斯的書和學(xué)習(xí)班等數(shù)不清的成就。后來我們發(fā)現(xiàn)，羅賓斯的母親不僅嚴(yán)重酗酒，還對止痛藥物上癮。不過從他的公開敘述中，我們對他的家庭所知的也就只有這些了。 接下來是羅賓斯的創(chuàng)業(yè)之路。片子的其余部分大量刻畫了學(xué)習(xí)班的學(xué)員們，羅賓斯則作為“實(shí)用心理學(xué)家”幫他們愈合了各種心靈上的創(chuàng)傷。這些情節(jié)給人以強(qiáng)烈的心靈震憾感，不過除了上面說的那些，你再看不到關(guān)于他私人生活的任何細(xì)節(jié)了。 順便透露一下，我本人也是羅賓斯的粉絲，我一直驚嘆于他問問題的能力，解讀身體語言的能力，以及在極短的時間內(nèi)與人建立情感聯(lián)系的能力。為了學(xué)習(xí)他的這些技巧，我讀過他的書，看過他的采訪，也聽過他的播客。他訪問《財(cái)富》的紐約總部時，我還見過他本人。不過我仍然覺得，我對這個啟發(fā)了全球千百萬人的成功學(xué)大師本人仍然一無所知。 片子的敘事風(fēng)格顯然是由羅賓斯來控制的。他不是一個愿意打開心扉的人。據(jù)說制片人喬伊·伯靈格花了兩年時間才說服了他拍這部紀(jì)錄片。對于這個幫助了無數(shù)創(chuàng)業(yè)人實(shí)現(xiàn)夢想的人，他自己的故事我們卻知之甚少。 他生氣的時候什么樣？有什么事能讓他產(chǎn)生不安全感？如果他不能幫助某個人突破自我，他會怎樣做？他有沒有特別失敗和失意的時候？他向無數(shù)CEO、創(chuàng)業(yè)人和像我一樣的普通人說教“真實(shí)”的重要性，但他什么時候摘下過那張精心編織的面具，做過真實(shí)的自己？ 在整部片子的最后一分鐘，隨著演職員字幕的滾動，羅賓斯回答了整部片子最重要的問題之一。聽了他的回答，你就明白他為什么這樣愛談問問題的重要性了。 伯靈格問道：“能不能讓觀眾更好地了解一下托尼·羅賓斯到底是誰？” 羅賓斯的“確定性”在片中第一次消失了，他顯得稍有些不安。他聳了聳肩，眼睛望向一邊，說道：“我不知道很多人是不是在乎這個。”他笑了笑，然后補(bǔ)充道：“老實(shí)說，如果你的電影成功與否取決于這個，我認(rèn)為你就有麻煩了。” 好在對于伯靈格來說，他的紀(jì)錄片能否成功，這個問題并不重要。（財(cái)富中文網(wǎng)） 譯者：樸成奎? |
Tony Robbins has been described as a motivational speaker, a best-selling author, a CEO whisperer. But you probably already knew that, right? This was originally supposed to be an article about what entrepreneurs could learn from the new Netflix documentary on Robbins (lessons like “get hungry,” “ask probing questions,” “build consensus,” “be authentic”). It wasn’t until I got to the “authentic” part that I began to struggle. It’s ironic the film was titled Tony Robbins: I Am Not Your Guru because we never actually get to the essence of who Robbins is as a person (…besides not being a guru). The emotional, two-hour documentary opens with Robbins in his element – helping one of the 2,500 “Date With Destiny” seminar attendees deal with thoughts of suicide. It then gives us a vague description of Robbins’ own painful past. “I am a kid from Azusa, California, who did not have any f***ing certainty, but I was certain of one thing. I was not about to grow up and have a family that was gonna go through what I went through, and so I constructed this f***ing Tony Robbins guy. I constructed him. I created him. He was me, but I built this motherf***er,” Robbins narrates. What follows is a montage of TV personalities (Ellen DeGeneres, Larry King, and Piers Morgan) rattling off Robbins’ countless achievements related to his books and seminars. I should add that we do later get a two-minute look into Robbins’ family life and learn that his mom was an alcoholic addicted to pain medicine — one of the few things Robbins publicly talks about when he mentions his past. And that’s it for Robbins’ entrepreneurial journey. The rest of the film shines the spotlight on the seminar attendees, and Robbins acts as a “practical psychologist” helping them move past the trauma. It’s moving, powerful and emotionally charged, but you won’t learn any more about his personal life (past and present) than what has been written about it previously. Full disclosure: I’m a pretty big Robbins fan. I’ve always been fascinated by his ability to ask questions, read body language, and connect with people on an emotional level in a stunningly short period of time. I started studying Robbins’ techniques by reading his books, watching interviews and listening to podcasts. I even met him when he came toFortune’s offices in New York. Yet I still feel like I know nothing about the self-made titan who’s been able to inspire millions of people around the globe. It’s clear Robbins controls the narrative. He’s not comfortable opening up. It took filmmaker Joe Berlinger two years to convince Robbins to even let him do this documentary. For a man who has managed to live the dream so many entrepreneurs aspire to, we know remarkably little about his story. Who is Robbins when he’s furious? What makes him insecure? How does he act when he can’t help someone have a breakthrough? When has he failed miserably? He preaches authenticity to CEOs, entrepreneurs and people like me, but at what point does the carefully-curated brand end and the real Tony Robbins begin? It’s fitting that Robbins talks about the power of questions so much because one of the most powerful parts of the entire film is the last question asked in the last minute as the credits are rolling. “What about giving people a better understanding of who Tony Robbins is,” Berlinger asks. For the first time in the documentary, Robbins’ “f***ing certainty” strips away and he looks slightly uncomfortable. He shrugs, looks to the side and says, “I don’t know that many people give a shit.” He laughs and adds, “Honestly, if that’s what your film’s success is based on, I think you’re in trouble.” Luckily for Berlinger, it’s not. |
